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001			ocm50337467
003			OCoLC
007			ta
008			020809s2002 nyu b 001 0 eng d
010			_a 00054182
020			_a006095616X
020			_a9780060956165
035			_a(OCoLC)50337467
050			_aBF637.C45 _bL47 2002
100	1		_aLerner, Harriet Goldhor.
245	1	4	_aThe dance of connection : _bhow to talk to someone when you're mad, hurt, scared, frustrated, insulted, betrayed, or desperate / _cHarriet Lerner.
250			_a1st Quill ed.
260			_aNew York : _bQuill, _c2002.
300			_axiv, 256 p.
504			_aIncludes bibliographical references and index.
505	0		_aAcknowledgments -- Prologue : Back to the sandbox -- ch.1. Finding your voice -- ch. 2.Voice lessons from my father -- ch.3. Our first family : where we learned (not) to speak -- ch. 4.Should you share vulnerability? -- ch. 5.In praise of pretending -- ch.6. Putting our parents in the hot seat -- ch. 7.Love can make you stupid -- ch. 8.Marriage : where's your bottom line? -- ch.9. "I can't live with this!" Voicing the ultimate in marriage -- ch.10. Warming things up -- ch. 11.Silent men/angry women -- ch.12. Criticism is hard to take -- ch. 13.An apology? Don't hold your breath -- ch. 14.Complaining and negativity : when you can't listen another minute -- ch. 15.The sounds of silence : finding a voice when you're rejected and cut off -- Epilogue : To thine own self be true -- Notes -- Index.
520			_aReveals how to communicate effectively using "voice lessons," enabling readers to convey clearer meanings and strengthen positive emotions and integrity in the face of adversity.
650		4	_aInterpersonal communication.
650		4	_aIntimacy (Psychology)
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